The One About the Queer Boyfriend

Dear Agnes:

My husband has been supporting a man for the last nine months. So far he has given him a house, a $6,000 truck and has paid all of his bills. I went away for a week, and when I came back, I found this man in my house. What do I do?

FRUIT FLY IN TRAINING?

Dear FFT,

Not to fear. Most likely they’re just good friends. Yeah, and I’m the frickin’ Virgin of Guadalupe. You’ve got to face facts. Your man likes the pole and the hole, and your wedding bed apparently ain’t getting any fresher. In fact, I’d venture to say it’s starting to smell of aftershave. And not the Aqua Velva you bought your happy hubby for Hanukkah.

Confront your husband, tell him you put a web cam in the bedroom and you didn’t see them doing anything that you two couldn’t do yourselves. Tell him it’s time to play the slot machine or take his roll of quarters over to the the Pai-Gow Poker table.

And remember, what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas, unless you need leverage during the divorce proceedings. Nothing says I’ll miss being with you like a cleverly wrapped video tape mailed to, say, his workplace or his parents’ house.

Your best friend,

July 4th, 2006 Agnes, Your Best Friend

The One About The Fantasy Man

Dear Agnes:

I am engaged to be married on Valentine’s Day. He is a wonderful man; we have been together for three weeks. It will be the seventh marriage for both. I really like this man. He’s funny, witty and kind. He loves me and my children, and they love him very much (when he’s not in jail).

My problem is I do not feel that we’re soul mates. Is this just a fantasy? What if I’m making another mistake? I don’t want to hurt anyone, but I can’t help feeling that since I don’t feel butterflies after being with him for more than three years, something is missing. And being a hefty lady, there aren’t too many propsectors out there looking to dig in my gold mine.

Am I being silly or looking for something that does not exist?

GORILLA IN THE MIDST

Dear GIM,

Soulmates is one of my favorite movies, and I’m glad you enjoy it, too! From IMDB “Immortal Richard Wayborn uses the bodies of the young women he kills to temporarily bring his wife back from the dead. They’re Soul Mates. But Sara, his latest target, may be more than he bargained for.” Talk about butterflies, Gorilla! Hilarious. I still don’t know why it never got wider distribution. If it had the Olsen Twins in it, it would already have a Saturday morning cartoon.

But back to your original question. Yes, that is just fantasy, and most likely you are making another mistake. But where would the world be without mistakes? Wouldn’t we miss watching George W stumble through another sophomoric speech?

You are right, however. Something is missing. There is no such thing as a “soul mate.” That’s just a term used by selfish people to excuse their bad behaviour and break apart healthy families and fuel their ego-centric personalities (such as my ex-husband).

Here’s my advice to you, my friend: make like the other pound-oriented brides of the world and slam some tequila, pop a valium, trade in your aged dad for someone stronger, and just reply “I do” anytime anyone looks your way.

Your lucky groom (and possibly some of his groomsmen if it’s anything like my wedding) will be taking a ride in your mine car caboose in no time!

Save me some cake!

Your best friend,

July 4th, 2006 Agnes, Your Best Friend